Frequently when men visit Latin American countries they start romantic relationships. Sometimes these relationships get serious and the man will send money. When the girl solicits these payments over the phone or Internet, then we call these RFM (Requests for Money). They are typically delivered by Western Union or Moneygram.
Some girls are so good with their RFM’s that we call them Western Union Girls. When it gets more serious a man may leave behind a debit card, attached to a stateside account and then make deposits that can be withdrawn through ATM. These kind of regular payments come with the illusion that the girl is “off the market”.
Of course this is always a lie, and what it really means is that she may be out of the bar, night club or motel where she initially met the guy. Instead, she is working at another location or just relying on her little black book for private appointments.
According to Cuba Dave, some of his favorite girls in Sosua are off the market, and for this reason he can’t post their photos anymore. However, he gets to spend days at a time with these girls since their boyfriends are subsidizing the party. Some guys who visit Sosua and the Dominican Republic call the guys sending money a “Captain Save a Ho” or just a Captain.
Remember, in these countries you never loose your girl, just your place in line.
Often when a guy becomes a captain they get angry with their friends who tell them the truth. They believe that guys are spreading lies in order to undermine the relationship, or steal her. Captains are also the most frequent reason why girls take down photos from Facebook, and guys get nasty messages to do the same. After all, once the captain is paying, he thinks that the girl is his property.
The best advice I can offer is to not become a captain. Just say no to the RFM when it comes, and if you think you have to make it up, then just spend better on your girl the next time you are vacation.